The way we move through the world is governed by our belief system. This is built up through our conditioning and life experience. We have created and continually update our own mental maps of reality. We tend not to act on reality directly, rather we act directly from what our map is showing us. Maps are never perfect. They can be very useful. Essential in fact. But they do have limitations.
When you find yourself holding back from doing new things. Making more money. Connecting to others better. Or being at peace. It indicates you probably have limitations in your mental map. Reality is infinite. Pure consciousness. When you start removing limiting beliefs with methods such as 'The Diamond Technique' shown below you will discover a new sense of possibility...
The conflict of the opposites
"The conflict of the opposites is not the conflict of dissimilars, but of changing and opposing desires. Conflict exists only when what is is not understood. If we can understand what is, then there is no conflict of its opposite. What is can be understood only through choiceless awareness in which there is neither condemnation, justification, nor identification." - Krishnamurti: Eighth Talk in Madras, 1947
The following technique that is useful for changing limiting beliefs was created by German NLP Trainer's Leo Maier and Klaus Grochowiak ( http://www.cnlpa.de ) who wrote a book called "The Diamond Technique." It's only available in German - I learned the method on a NLP Master Practitioner course.
The Diamond Technique
1. Mark out four spots on the ground (eg paper) to form a diamond shape: Problem, Opposite, Common, Beyond.
2. Now step into the 'problem' spot and answer the following questions to yourself. i) What does this problem enable me to do? ii) What does it stop me from doing?
3. Next step into the 'opposite' spot. What is the opposite of the 'problem'? With that in mind answer the following questions. i) What does this enable me to do? ii) What does it stop me from doing?
4. Now step into the 'common' spot. What do the, 'problem' and 'opposite' have in common? Now answer the following questions. i) What does this enable me to do? ii) What does it stop me from doing?
5. Next stand in the 'beyond' spot and come up with something that is beyond all of the other spots. Again ask the two questions. i) What does this enable me to do? ii) What does it stop me from doing?
It's a very interesting and useful exercise for removing limiting beliefs. I like the way it makes use of opposites along with it's simplicity and elegance. How did you find the experience?